Do you ever compare yourself to others, wishing you were born with more talent, intelligence, or athleticism? Are you hard on yourself/others when you make a mistake or someone else does (maybe in sports)? We all struggle with self-doubt and perfectionism sometimes! Left unmanaged, however, this can lead to major stumbling blocks in our lives and even harm our relationships with others. You are already putting in the hard work, practice and focused effort, right?! But what about the mental edge that you need to reach your goals and maintain your performance?
Could you shift your thinking from “I can’t do that!!” and add a little 3 letter word to the end? How about, “I can’t do that, yet!!” Now you have added some room to grow. You are well on your way to developing that mental edge, that growth mindset which is absolutely critical to being successful at home, at school, at work, in sports, in relationships and in business!
Which of these are you, your partner or kiddo more likely to say?
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Growth Mindset |
Stuck (Fixed) Mindset |
| 1. I feel stuck and might need some help! | 1. I am fine. I don’t need any help. Asking for help makes me look weak. |
| 2. This is challenging…but this also an opportunity to grow stronger. |
2. This is awful! I will never get through this!! |
| 3. This new thing is super hard! But I am going to keep trying until I get it! | 3. If I can’t do this right the first time, I quit! |
| 4. I will measure myself through my hard work and effort. | 4. I will measure myself only by winning or losing. |
| 5. My teammates rock! They inspire me to do my best! | 5. My teammates are better than me. I am the worst. |
Because we all get stuck sometimes, and need encouragement from our loved ones, I have created a free set of “Gotcha Cards” for your family. (Printing them on card stock works best) I hope you will enjoy using these to encourage each other! Have fun and find creative ways to surprise your loved ones (leave one on a chair, in a briefcase, on a stuffed animal…you get the idea!)!
Developing a growth mindset is a core part of my counseling and coaching process, so buckle up! You will see great progress from focusing on your mental edge!
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